Middle Age Manifesto

I've been known to be critical of those who try (unsuccessfully) to defy the aging process. I've been judgmental, yes, I think that's the right word, judgmental of people who get botox injections or plastic surgery . . . or elderly women who wear clothing that conflicts with their age or older men who date younger women in a transparent attempt to feel youthful. It's been easy to be so critical, since I've looked rather younger than my age (thanks for your good genes, Mom and Dad). I was at a party the other night, and someone kept saying to me "You don't have any wrinkles" in an accusatory manner. I pointed out my crow's feet, but that didn't seem to matter.

Still, over the last few months, I've seen my body start to change. In spite of my intense bouts on the treadmill and the weight lifting, I'm gaining weight. Even though I've started taking B Vitamins intravenously (kidding), my hair has started to thin. The other night while waiting to drift off to sleep, I came to the happy realization that if I lose my hair, I can start wearing wigs . . . beautiful wigs with thick hair in whatever color I choose.

I live in a society where older women can get overlooked. I see myself doing that sometimes, much to my dismay. At the same time, I have older female friends who are gutsy, independent, and absolutely vibrant. As of this moment, I'm committing to defy not aging but diminishment.

I plan to be a loud, smart-a**, feisty old woman who travels the world and doesn't care what anyone else thinks of me. I'll study new languages and become an expert in all kinds of unexpected things. I'll wear patterns with patterns and doc martens that look like motorcycle boots. I'll have a different wig for different moods, and I'll keep listening to alt-rock until the day I die.

When that day comes, cremate me in my docs and scatter my ashes in the wind. A box won't be able to contain the energy I release.

6 thoughts on “Middle Age Manifesto

  1. Justin Norris

    This is great. "I'm committing to defy not aging but diminishment." I absolutely love that line. Society has so many unfair, pressuring and confidence-deflating obstacles for men and women of all ages to endure. The bottom line is beauty, love and fun is subjective; nobody has the right to define either for another person. It's all about celebrating yourself and the world you're constantly creating for yourself. This was very inspirational, Kathee.

  2. Alison Bodily

    This piece of writing will be a classic! Until I read the words, "Middle Age", I hadn't really begun to see myself as that! (Gee thanks!)

    Seriously, you continue to be an inspiration to me. Keep taking risks - the world is a better place because of you.

  3. Chris

    This is what I have learned about aging - my age means that I have so much more perspective on life. It's more difficult to rock my boat these days, because I've been through enough storms to know that "this too shall pass." I am who I always was, only more so.

    So, Kathee, even though we only hung out at NWP in Tubac, I look forward to finding you in Wisdom's one day, knowing that we share a commitment to being who we always were meant to be - women who have lived every drop of life. The heck with worrying about crows feet - everything I ever achieved in my life had nothing to do with the state of my complexion!

  4. dkzody

    >> I have older female friends who are gutsy, independent, and absolutely vibrant<<

    I hope I'm one of your "old" feisty lady friends!


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